Questions and remarks that annoy parents :)

Ok being a mom of 3, no doubt there's challenges there. Ups and downs, it's pack and parcel of parenting.

Here's a list of thing parents (especially mommies) will get annoyed when somebody gave respective comments.

1. Kurusnye anak awak or why your child so thin. Ok here's the breakdown, nobody in this world would want to starve their child. Children are usually picky eaters and are more interested in playing rather than food. Most paediatrics will advice parents not to force feed. In fact memang sujud syukur if the anak nak makan. Just chill and let them explore. They will reach the phase where food will be so desirable. So dah dah..next!!





2. Cantik/handsomenye your kids, putih/hitam, rambut straight/curly..ikut siapa? Aiyoyo dah anak aku takkanlah ikut johnny depp pulak. This comment really gets on my nerves. Sometimes rase kena bawak big photo album or family tree,etc just to show where their looks are inherited from...so ok maybe parents tu dah outgrew their beauty and handsomeness ke, dah gelap coz pergi suntanning ke..takkan sume nak report kan kan...moving on!!

3. Omg your kids are so noisy....ok ok maybe you don't realize this, but they are kids!! They play, they laugh, they cry, they throw tantrums, heck i can assure you that you were once like that as well. Kalau my kids are quiet, i,'ll be worried. It's either they are planing som evil lans or sick. So sila kahwin and beranak dulu before nak comment lebih2.




4. Anak you dah pandai baca and tulis ke. Here's the thing. Children are humans too. Born as individual and each and every child are special. Some learn faster than the other and some are a bit slower in certain areas. Macam kita zaman dolu dolu, takdalah semua benda we are good at. So stop giving them pressure, let them learn at their own pace. They will eventually know how to read and write. Don't take away their childhood from them. If we are pressured by this kind of comment you will come down hard on your kids.

5. Anak you ni selalu tak sihat. Hmm... Again, no parents want their kids to be sick. Anak demam panas pun mak boleh menitiskan air mata ok. The thing is if we compared dulu and sekarang, you will see so much difference. Dulu kalau demam panas tinggi melambung, mak mak kita chill jer kan, amik tuala basah and put it at our forehead, but nowadays with more and more outbreaks (thank you to those who opt not to vaccine kan their kids) doctors too are on their toes. Demam sikit ambik darah, duduk hospital for observation, check itu ini just to be sure that it is not something serious. So before you pass remark as if parents are not taking good care of their child, please be considerate. Parents are humans too, they can't protect their kids from everything as much as they want too.


6. Apsal anak you ni sorang rambut kerinting, sorang rambut straight, sorang gelap sikit? ....oh oo..ok this might be personal to me. When you asked me this kind of question, I am so speechless. What can I say? Ni kan semua anugerah Allah SWT. When you ask me this kind of question, I can conclude two things either (a) you are question God's creation or (b) you think that I am messing around with some other dudes..lol...



7. Kenapa tak boleh bagi anak you chocolate? Kenapa you bagi anak you minum coke?..haihhh again it's the parents choice. When it comes to parenting, there is no right or wrong. Dont be judgemental. Some things may work for you but not for others and vice versa. So let them be. Every parents know what's best for their kids. You can advice, but if they don't take it, don't take it too hard. We are afterall were raised in different style and circumstances. Don't compare.

Ok ok, I have to admit, some of the remarks kat atas are most probably someone trying to strike a conversation with us parents. But trust me, every parents are sensitive about their kids, simply because they are emotionally attached and its theirs. Tak kisah lah if the anak is still a baby or dah besar panjang dah start ada kedutan pun parents will still be defensive and sensitive when it comes to their kids. So here's a piece of advice. Don't poke the mama bear ok.