While I am writing this I am probably not in a stable state of mind. So if terlebih emosi, please do forgive me.
The thing is i need to vent this out since there is nobody to talk to. Unlike when I used to work, now it's getting a little bit lonely and overwhelming especially after something upsetting happens.
This morning like any other morning, I woke up, get a dose of my daily caffeine and started my daily routine. Everything was ok, Arissa and Zalia woke up and gave me a smile and I gave them a hug in return.
Unlike the other two, my second one woke up cranky and decided to throw one of her worst tantrum. Tried to remain calm, that's when I decided to give both Arissa and Zalia their bath, gave them breakfast and before handling this "spoiled brat"
We had a wrestling match in the toilet, nope scrapped that off, we had a mma fight, no holds bar, no rules. Getting kicked in the tummy and having your breast pulled early in the morning is such a "joy" and "happiness". A ray of sunshine.Not to mentioned, this girl screaming at the top of her lungs is like wow, how do i put this "music" to my ears.
After taking her bath, the next stage begins, and the last part for me. getting her in her uniform means that's it buddy you're going to school.Unfortunately getting kicked again and bending trying to pick her up has taken it's toll on my body (last week had an xray and my back checked and Doctor discovered some injuries). So thank you dear sophie for making it so painfully hurt today. So this is when my heart starts to palpitate, reaching my boiling point, and the transformation to jadi hantu begins. Aku dah naik hantu lah maknanye. And you don't want to see or hear me naik hantu. But this girl is just asking for it lah!
I too started screaming at the top of my lungs. Ok here's a little recap, she did not go to school last Friday and on Monday. So last night she promised not to cry and buat perangai. but she did throw her tantrums she broke her promise and hell yeah aku dah sakit so sorry lah mak naik hantu.
Started my quarrel with her (we fight like sisters according to hubby) when suddenly grandpa decided to put icing on top of this beautiful cake. If she doesn't want to go don't force her. Dia kecik lagi. Omg daddy i'm sorry, but u came at the wrong time. Had a bf and told my daddy that because he said that this spoilt little girl go running to you every single time.
So in the end I lost the battle and she won. She is now as we speak she is watching atok's ipad happily when mommy specifically said no tv, no ipad for you. Thank you my little girl for making me feel the worst today. Loser of the day. I am right now totally giving up. Thank you for kicking me hard when i felt like I am at the lowest point in my life.I am going to school later to cancel your registration. You can stay at home, sit on your throne and rule your kingdom. Just dont come running angrily one day realizing you don't know things. (i told you aku tengah emosi kan). Duit monthly fees to i will use it for my own pleasure, Sekian terima kasih
Emotional writing
Saturday, February 13, 2016
Ok being a mom of 3, no doubt there's challenges there. Ups and downs, it's pack and parcel of parenting.
Here's a list of thing parents (especially mommies) will get annoyed when somebody gave respective comments.
1. Kurusnye anak awak or why your child so thin. Ok here's the breakdown, nobody in this world would want to starve their child. Children are usually picky eaters and are more interested in playing rather than food. Most paediatrics will advice parents not to force feed. In fact memang sujud syukur if the anak nak makan. Just chill and let them explore. They will reach the phase where food will be so desirable. So dah dah..next!!
2. Cantik/handsomenye your kids, putih/hitam, rambut straight/curly..ikut siapa? Aiyoyo dah anak aku takkanlah ikut johnny depp pulak. This comment really gets on my nerves. Sometimes rase kena bawak big photo album or family tree,etc just to show where their looks are inherited from...so ok maybe parents tu dah outgrew their beauty and handsomeness ke, dah gelap coz pergi suntanning ke..takkan sume nak report kan kan...moving on!!
3. Omg your kids are so noisy....ok ok maybe you don't realize this, but they are kids!! They play, they laugh, they cry, they throw tantrums, heck i can assure you that you were once like that as well. Kalau my kids are quiet, i,'ll be worried. It's either they are planing som evil lans or sick. So sila kahwin and beranak dulu before nak comment lebih2.
4. Anak you dah pandai baca and tulis ke. Here's the thing. Children are humans too. Born as individual and each and every child are special. Some learn faster than the other and some are a bit slower in certain areas. Macam kita zaman dolu dolu, takdalah semua benda we are good at. So stop giving them pressure, let them learn at their own pace. They will eventually know how to read and write. Don't take away their childhood from them. If we are pressured by this kind of comment you will come down hard on your kids.
5. Anak you ni selalu tak sihat. Hmm... Again, no parents want their kids to be sick. Anak demam panas pun mak boleh menitiskan air mata ok. The thing is if we compared dulu and sekarang, you will see so much difference. Dulu kalau demam panas tinggi melambung, mak mak kita chill jer kan, amik tuala basah and put it at our forehead, but nowadays with more and more outbreaks (thank you to those who opt not to vaccine kan their kids) doctors too are on their toes. Demam sikit ambik darah, duduk hospital for observation, check itu ini just to be sure that it is not something serious. So before you pass remark as if parents are not taking good care of their child, please be considerate. Parents are humans too, they can't protect their kids from everything as much as they want too.
6. Apsal anak you ni sorang rambut kerinting, sorang rambut straight, sorang gelap sikit? ....oh oo..ok this might be personal to me. When you asked me this kind of question, I am so speechless. What can I say? Ni kan semua anugerah Allah SWT. When you ask me this kind of question, I can conclude two things either (a) you are question God's creation or (b) you think that I am messing around with some other dudes..lol...
7. Kenapa tak boleh bagi anak you chocolate? Kenapa you bagi anak you minum coke?..haihhh again it's the parents choice. When it comes to parenting, there is no right or wrong. Dont be judgemental. Some things may work for you but not for others and vice versa. So let them be. Every parents know what's best for their kids. You can advice, but if they don't take it, don't take it too hard. We are afterall were raised in different style and circumstances. Don't compare.
Ok ok, I have to admit, some of the remarks kat atas are most probably someone trying to strike a conversation with us parents. But trust me, every parents are sensitive about their kids, simply because they are emotionally attached and its theirs. Tak kisah lah if the anak is still a baby or dah besar panjang dah start ada kedutan pun parents will still be defensive and sensitive when it comes to their kids. So here's a piece of advice. Don't poke the mama bear ok.
Here's a list of thing parents (especially mommies) will get annoyed when somebody gave respective comments.
2. Cantik/handsomenye your kids, putih/hitam, rambut straight/curly..ikut siapa? Aiyoyo dah anak aku takkanlah ikut johnny depp pulak. This comment really gets on my nerves. Sometimes rase kena bawak big photo album or family tree,etc just to show where their looks are inherited from...so ok maybe parents tu dah outgrew their beauty and handsomeness ke, dah gelap coz pergi suntanning ke..takkan sume nak report kan kan...moving on!!
4. Anak you dah pandai baca and tulis ke. Here's the thing. Children are humans too. Born as individual and each and every child are special. Some learn faster than the other and some are a bit slower in certain areas. Macam kita zaman dolu dolu, takdalah semua benda we are good at. So stop giving them pressure, let them learn at their own pace. They will eventually know how to read and write. Don't take away their childhood from them. If we are pressured by this kind of comment you will come down hard on your kids.
5. Anak you ni selalu tak sihat. Hmm... Again, no parents want their kids to be sick. Anak demam panas pun mak boleh menitiskan air mata ok. The thing is if we compared dulu and sekarang, you will see so much difference. Dulu kalau demam panas tinggi melambung, mak mak kita chill jer kan, amik tuala basah and put it at our forehead, but nowadays with more and more outbreaks (thank you to those who opt not to vaccine kan their kids) doctors too are on their toes. Demam sikit ambik darah, duduk hospital for observation, check itu ini just to be sure that it is not something serious. So before you pass remark as if parents are not taking good care of their child, please be considerate. Parents are humans too, they can't protect their kids from everything as much as they want too.6. Apsal anak you ni sorang rambut kerinting, sorang rambut straight, sorang gelap sikit? ....oh oo..ok this might be personal to me. When you asked me this kind of question, I am so speechless. What can I say? Ni kan semua anugerah Allah SWT. When you ask me this kind of question, I can conclude two things either (a) you are question God's creation or (b) you think that I am messing around with some other dudes..lol...7. Kenapa tak boleh bagi anak you chocolate? Kenapa you bagi anak you minum coke?..haihhh again it's the parents choice. When it comes to parenting, there is no right or wrong. Dont be judgemental. Some things may work for you but not for others and vice versa. So let them be. Every parents know what's best for their kids. You can advice, but if they don't take it, don't take it too hard. We are afterall were raised in different style and circumstances. Don't compare.
Ok ok, I have to admit, some of the remarks kat atas are most probably someone trying to strike a conversation with us parents. But trust me, every parents are sensitive about their kids, simply because they are emotionally attached and its theirs. Tak kisah lah if the anak is still a baby or dah besar panjang dah start ada kedutan pun parents will still be defensive and sensitive when it comes to their kids. So here's a piece of advice. Don't poke the mama bear ok.
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